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The Healthy Relationship Wheel FPNTC
FAMILY PLANNING
NATIONAL TRAINING CENTER
This wheel and discussion questions
ACCOUNTABILITY can help guide conversations
? Accepting responsibility, with adolescents about healthy
behaviors, and attitudes
TRUST ? Admitting mistakes relationships.
(or being wrong) SAFETY
? Accepting each other's ? Refusing to intimidate or
word manipulate
? Giving the bene t of the ? Respecting physical space Discuss:
doubt ? Expressing self nonviolently
and honestly ?? Which statements on this wheel
describe your relationship with
COOPERATION RESPECT HONESTY your partner?
? Asking, not expecting ? Communicating
? Accepting change openly and truthfully ?? Which statements on this wheel
? Making decisions together
? Being willing to compromise are the most important to you
? Seeking mutually-satisfying SUPPORT when you think of respect? Why?
resolutions to con ict
? Supporting each other's
choices ?? Which statements on this wheel
? Being understanding
? O ering encouragement can help you deal with conflict
? Listening non-judgementally
? Valuing opinions (or disagreements) in a healthy
way?
Key Characteristics of Healthy Relationships
?? The two people are equal in the relationship.
?? Each shows some flexibility in role behavior.
?? Each avoids assuming an attitude of ownership toward the other.
?? Each avoids manipulating, exploiting, and using the other.
?? The two people encourage each other to become all that they are capable of becoming.
Note: This tool was adapted from Sexual Health: An Adolescent Provider Toolkit, by the Adolescent Health Working
Group, 2010. Content was reviewed and adapted by SYN-United Colorado (Youth Advisory Group).
The Relationship Spectrum FPNTC
FAMILY PLANNING
NATIONAL TRAINING CENTER
All relationships exist on a spectrum from healthy to abusive with unhealthy somewhere in the middle.
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE
A healthy relationship means that You may be in an unhealthy relationship An abusive relationship starts
both partners are... if one of you is... when one of you...
MISTREATS THE OTHER
RESPECTFUL DISRESPECTFUL One or both partners disrespects the feelings,
You value each other as you are. You respect each One or both partners is not considerate of the thoughts, decisions, opinions, or physical safety of
other's emotional, digital and sexual boundaries. other's feelings and/or personal boundaries. the other.
COMMUNICATIVE NON-COMMUNICATIVE COMMUNICATES IN A WAY THAT IS
You talk openly about problems, listen to each When problems arise, you fight or you don't HARMFUL/INSULTING
other and respect each other's opinions. discuss them at all.
TRUSTING NOT TRUSTING MAKES ACCUSATIONS
You believe what your partner has to say. You One partner doesn't believe what the other says, One partner accuses the other for their
do not feel the need to "prove" each other's
trustworthiness. or feels entitled to invade their privacy. harmful actions.
DENIES THAT THE ABUSIVE ACTIONS
HONEST DISHONEST ARE ABUSE
You are honest with each other, but can still keep One or both partners tell lies. One or both partners makes excuses for abusive
some things private. actions and/or minimizes the abusive behavior.
ISOLATES THE OTHER PARTNER
HAPPY TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER NOT SPENDING TIME WITH OTHERS The partners spend all of their time together and
OR APART Your partner's community is the only one you
You both can enjoy spending time apart, alone or socialize in. one may feel unable to talk to others, especially
with others. about what's really happening in the relationship.
CONTROLS THE OTHER
EQUAL STRUGGLING FOR CONTROL One partner tells the other what to wear, who they
You make decisions together and hold each other One partner feels their desires and choices are can hang out with, where they can go and/or what
to the same standards. more important. they can do.
MAKING MUTUAL SEXUAL CHOICES PRESSURING THE OTHER INTO FORCES SEXUAL ACTIVITY
Both partners make decisions together and can SEXUAL ACTIVITY One person makes all of the decisions in the
openly discuss what each one is dealing with, like One person tries to make most of the decisions. He
relationship problems and sexual choices. or she may pressure the other about sex or refuse relationship. One partner forces the other to have
to see how one's actions can hurt the other one. sex. It's an imbalance of power and control.
Note: This tool was adapted from loveisrespect.org with input from SYN-United Colorado (Youth Advisory Group).

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